Who would have thought that it would see ‘Grace’ as a common theme on the news? Yet the words of Erika Kirk have put that precisely. Newspaper heads, podcasts, news items and blogs have thought about her decision to forgive forgiveness to the alleged murderer of her husband, Charlie. “That young man … I forgive him, I forgive him because it was what Christ did, and it’s what Charlie would do.”
She earned the standing ovation she received because each of us knows the challenge of forgiveness.
Some people leave the path of forgiveness because they consider it impossible steeply. So let’s be realistic about the action. Forgiveness does not give a grace, excuse or does not ignore the attack. Forgiveness is not necessarily reconciliation. A recovered relationship with the offender is not essential or always possible. Even more, the expression “forgiveness and forgetting” states an unreachable standard.
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Forgiveness is simply changing your attitude towards the perpetrator; It starts from a desire to harm an openness to be in peace. The Bible urges us to be “tender heart, to be forgiving” (Eph. 4:32).
Erika Kirk hugs US President Donald Trump on stage during the memorial service for her husband Charlie Kirk in State Farm Stadium September 21, 2025 in Glendale, Arizona. (Joe Raedle/Getty images)
Forgiveness is an important step in the direction of a happy heart. When researchers from Duke University mentioned eight factors that promote emotional stability, four of them related to forgiveness.
1. Avoiding suspicion and resentment.
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2. Do not live in the past.
3. Don’t waste time and energy -fighting conditions that cannot be changed.
4. Refend itself from self -pity when a rough deal is held.
Forgiveness leads to happiness. Interested in more joy? Try these steps.
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Determine what you need to forgive
Become specific. Limit it to the identifiable attack. “He was a jerk” doesn’t work. “He promised to leave his work at work and to be attentive at home.” That is better there.
Ask yourself why it hurts
Why does this attack puncture? What is it about, do you get injured? Do you feel betrayed? Ignored? Isolated? Do your best to find the answer, and before you get it on the perpetrator …
Erika Kirk speaks during the memorial service for her husband, political activist Charlie Kirk in State Farm Stadium on September 21, 2025, in Glendale, Arizona. (Win McNamee/Getty Images)
Bring it to Jesus
Nobody will ever love you more than him. Let this wound be a chance to get close to your savior. Does this experience and lack of forgiveness hind your well -being? Does it reduce your peace? If the answer is yes, take steps in the direction of forgiveness. Talk to Jesus about the violation until the anger decreases. And when it returns, talk to Jesus again.
And if it feels safe, at some point …
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Tell your perpetrator
Submit a complaint with a clear head and pure motives. Be specific. Not overly dramatic. Easily explain the attack and the way you feel. It may sound like this: “We have agreed to turn our house into a refuge. But after dinner you seem to get lost in e -mails and projects. Consequently, I feel lonely under my own roof.”
If it is done respectfully and honestly, this is a step in the direction of forgiveness.
Pray for your perpetrator
You cannot force reconciliation, but you can offer intercourse. “Pray for those who prosecute you” (Matt. 5:44 NIV). Prayer reveals every persistent resentment, and what a better place to see! Are you standing in front of the throne of grace and then find it difficult to give grace?
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Ask Jesus to help you
In her message, Erika Kirk explained that a motive to forgive this is: Jesus did it. He hung on the cross and prayed, “Father, forgive them, because they don’t know what they are doing.” (Lk. 23:34 NIV)
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Jesus left an example and Erika Kirk chooses to follow it.
Let’s do the same.
Why does this attack puncture? What is it about, do you get injured? Do you feel betrayed? Ignored? Isolated? Do your best to find the answer, and before you get it on the perpetrator …
Dear heavenly Father,
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I want to follow the example of Jesus and pray for those who injure me. I want to be like Jesus and be slow for anger. I want to be like Jesus and give grace. Thank you for giving me the opportunity to choose peace over anger. The path to forgiveness is not easy. Thank you for never called me to do what you haven’t done yet.
In the name of your dear son, Amen.
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